Cubber's Choice

At Notre Dame Elementary, we have implemented the Cubber's Choice program This program empowers children to use the skills of conflict management in school, in the community and at home.


Cubber's Choice is unique in two ways:


Cubber's Choice is predicated on the assumption that annoying, "small" problems can usually be solved by students, but that "big" problems (things that make a child feel threatened or frightened) must be shared with an adult.


The goals of the program are to:



The material is first presented at a school assembly as part of our moral intelligence program. Follow up occurs during daily skill practice at the end of announcements. Within the core program, students are first taught to discriminate between "big" problems that must be shared with an adult, and "small" problems that they can resolve. 

After mastering this distinction, each of the nine skills are taught to the students. For example, specific strategies for "MAKE A DEAL" are taught and practiced, including how to flip a coin, how to pick a number from one to ten, how to compromise and make a trade-off, etc.

The program encourages students to try two choices from the “chart." If the "small" problem persists, they are told that adult intervention is warranted. Because terms such as "Ignore" are linguistic in nature, each skill is reduced to distinct operational skills, so young learners understand the meaning and function of each behavior.

Auditory, visual and kinesthetic learning activities are provided, as are all levels of learning mastery, from simple identification through synthesis. Throughout the daily skill practice, two important messages

are presented: every student can make good choices and every student can make the choice that fits them best.

Because of cultural or personality differences, it is not mandated that specific “small" problems must be handled in exactly the same way by all students. Instead, students are allowed to make individual choices ... some students might use a more assertive approach (TELL THEM TO STOP), while others may select a less assertive choice (IGNORE).


Through our program, students will:




Parents are encouraged to print out the posters below and adopt these choices in your home as a way of dealing with conflict. I have had many parents adopt this program at home with excellent results. Sibling relationships improved and tattling was virtually eliminated. If you would like more information about how you can use this program in your home, please do not hesitate to contact myself, Mrs. Val Hanson, at the school.